Tucked neatly along the baseline of some wing mirrors is a sign. It says “Objects in the mirror are closer than they appear”. It got me thinking…
Mirrors are curious objects, they allow you to see yourself, they reflect an exact mirror image of what is behind you (literally). They make spaces look bigger, they reflect light and brighten rooms. Most importantly, they illustrate you in all your rawness and show you exactly as you are without alteration. Mirrors do not judge, they do not speak, they just frankly expose.
There is a school of thought that suggests that if you dislike something about someone else, that perhaps that “something” is the “thing” you need to work on yourself the most.
For me, it annoys the absolute crap out of me when things take so bloody long to happen. When a person is inordinately slow and takes far too long to do quite simple tasks I get frustrated and my unkind head comes out to play. My unkind head uses expletives, often a chain of them in quick succession, it huffs and puffs and generally is not the nicest head I own.
Therefore it goes without saying that I need to work on my patience skills. So when I am judging and carrying on like a pork chop because the chick in the coffee shop hasn’t even left on her trip to Brazil to locate the bloody coffee beans, perhaps I should chill the hell out. Maybe I should take a leaf out of her book and just relax, take my time to be in the moment and enjoy the smell of the coffee beans as she removes her luggage from her person, and begins to debag the delicious small brown beans from their hessian sack to dry them in the sun waiting for the moment that they could possibly be turned into a coffee that I can neck before I hurtle towards my next task. Ahhhhh
As I gaze at her slightly hippie style and listen as she discusses important topics like veganism and the nasturtiums she is growing at the moment, perhaps I need to step back, look at who I’m becoming with my impatience level at an all-time high and have better conversations, a deeper connection with my surroundings and more time to absorb instead life of glancing at it without any awe or sense of wonder.
So the object that is in the mirror, for me is the girl in the coffee shop, she is blissfully unaware that she is turning my guts into a knot of “hurry the F**K up”. It’s not her fault. It’s my fault that I am responding to her chilled out vibration with impatience.
It’s now my job to change myself, she doesn’t need to learn how to make coffee at breakneck speed, I need to not judge that, I need to relax and take time to sit outside and let the sun shine on my face, perhaps pick up one of the magazines lazily strewn on the table or have an actual conversation with another human.
So whatever you judge, is your problem. Take a look in the mirror, because as the sign says “Objects in the mirror are closer than they appear”…
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